Mummy has found some very beautiful poems, lyrics, quotes, scriptures, and stories online - These words very much describe the turmiol and emotions surrounding the loss of a baby. Many of these have been adapted for Thomas.

We will share these here in remembrance of you and of all the other 'Little ones' who pass on before thier time.

(Many of the poems I found online have no signature - many are signed 'Author Unknown'. If there are any words or poems here that belong to you and you are offended by my use of them here, firstly I apologise and secondly - please let me know so that I can credit your work to you.)

He's Still My Son

He's still my son
Although he is not at my side
he's always with me in heart and mind
He's still my son
although you can not see him with your eyes
Within my spirit I know he is alive
He's still my son
Yes, he died
But it's up to his loved ones to keep his memory alive
He's still my son
Yes, he was unplanned
But if I had to choose
I would choose him all over again
He's still my son
Even though you can not hear him cry
Instead, you may hear tiny wings flutter by
He's still my son
Though we may not understand
That in such a short time he served the purpose for which his life began
He's still my son
He will always be
A mother's love can never die
Even throughout eternity
He's still my son

Written By: Nicole B. Stienley

God's Promises

A time to every purpose under heaven
And life here on earth for you just
was not meant to be

In the depths of my being
You were formed by God's hand
Oh so perfectly

A time to every purpose under heaven
While I am here on earth
I will never be able to understand
Why you were taken from me

But I will trust in the one
who formed you by his hand
And I will cling to his promise
That he holds our plans
And even though I can not see
the big picture
Everything will come to together in the end

A time to every purpose under heaven
Things of life we will never grasp or comprehend
Like why you went to heaven before you
got the chance to breathe
I can not understand

A time to every purpose under heaven
But I know Jesus is near
he can see every tear
He is the greatest comforter

A time to every purpose under heaven
And we know that all things work
together for good
I do believe that God knows best
so I will do my part and put
my heart to rest

I know that there is
A time for everything
This I know because the word of God
tells me so
And these promises I very well know
I will trust every word and lean on
the almighty one
For my peace and strength
Until the day we meet again.

Written By Nicole B. Stienley


' Mackenzie Taylor Kelly '

Born in heaven March 5, 2003

Mother of A Miscarriage

Broken heart Empty Womb
Can no one see the pain?
Can't anyone hear the screaming inside

I lost my baby, does that matter to you
Do you care or look at me with a blank stare
Yes I was unmarried, Yes this baby wasn't planned
But my little one was loved
All the plans all the dreams
I just keep thinking about the smiles I won't be able to see

Broken heart Empty Womb
No one can seem to understand
And I don't expect them to
But if you want to try to understand as much as you can
Think about it happening to you

I would not wish this on anyone
It's more than I can stand
But I know there is a reason
To make me stronger perhaps?
But I also know that I have hope
that I will see my precious one, that sleeps soundly just beyond heaven's gates

Broken heart Empty Womb
Please give me time to grieve
I don't think this pain is going to leave anytime soon
Please give me room so that one day I will move on
And if please don't say anything if you aren't sure how I am feeling
You may say something that will make the wounds bleed again
If you really care hug me and let me cry
Let me talk about how I am feeling deep down inside

I am a mother
No I know my little one is not with me
But for now I'm letting Jesus take care of my baby for a while
For Glory unspeakable is what me little one is able to see
And I know that one day my tiny angel will again be with me

Written By: Nicole Stienley

What My Child Has Taught Me

I've learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I've learned that learning to forgive takes a lot of practice.

I've learned that friends can become strangers, and strangers can become friends.

I've learned that ignorance isn't an excuse for the lack of compassion.

I've learned that some people will never, ever - "get it".

I've learned that the community of sorrow is the strongest of all.

I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of minutes.

I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.

I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words.
It may be the last time you see them.

I've learned that love isn't measured by the amount of time you have with someone.

I've learned that some sorrow is so deep that it has no words. But so is love.

What has your child taught you?
Angels Walk With Us

Angels walk with us
Softly, slowly,
Always caring,
Always there.

They follow behind, next to, or
Guide us through life.
Softening the blows we are dealt .
Magnifying the sunshine, the rainbows.

Angels sit with us,
Holding our hands,
Touching our hearts,
Hearing our pleas.

Angels weep with us,
Collecting our tears,
Turning them into stars for us to
For us to wish upon for brighter days.

Angels walk with us,
Holding our hearts in their hands,
Soothing our oceans of emotions,
Calming the waves of despair.

Angels watch over us,
Holding us as we sleep,
As we dream,
Never leaving our side, until they guide us

Monica A. Halsey
April 4, 1999

Written for Jodi, Michael, and the late Nicholas Johnson
My Angel Baby

Sweet little baby
So quiet and still
You lay here in
Your mommy's arms
No life, no will
I wish I could
See your eyes
But they are closed
And now we say
Our final good-byes
Until the day
That we will see
Each other again
My angel baby
Forever you'll be

Written by Jodi Johnson
January 19th, 2002

In loving memory of Nicholas Michael Johnson
born an angel on December 15th, 1998
you are my sunshine,
my only sunshine,
you make me happy,
when skies are Grey,
you'll never know dear,
how much I love you,
please don't take,
my sunshine away....
When the darkness of the evening
Crowds away the sun's last rays
And you lift your eyes to Heaven,
You may see a brand new blaze.

It's brilliant and it's lovely,
And it's shining just for you.
It's a brand new star in heaven,
Lit to welcome someone new.

Though your days may seem much longer
Since he had to cross that line,
If you lift your eyes to Heaven,
You will see that he still shines.

It's just a soft reminder
That although he is gone
As long as you let love grow,
His little light shines on.

And though you want him in your arms,
He's safe as he can be,
for he's in the arms of angels
And most perfect company.

And even in the morning,
Stars are lost in light of day,
Your little one is shining,
And not so far away.

Author Unknown

Before we said our first hello,
the time had already passed.
For when you held me in your arms,
I had gone to heaven to rest.

I felt angelic tears down my checks,
and I watched you as you weeped.
I wish I could have changed it all,
Your tears touched my soul so deep.

But mommy when you are sad,
Please be assured I know.
For death cannot take away your love,
it will only continue to grow.

Time and distance cannot erase,
a love and a bond so deep.
There is no bond that can compare,
and in your heart I'll keep.

When you are feeling far away,
and missing me so much.
Close your eyes and feel my wings,
their soft and gentle touch.

Or at night as you sleep,
I will join you in a dream.
You will see me standing close to you,
and we'll be lost within my wings.

So my dear Mommy,
as you go from day to day,
Find comfort in the knowledge,
I am never that far away.

~ Author Unknown ~

Once I lived in my mother's womb
A place for me to flourish and bloom

And in that place I felt such love
Until the day I was called from above

The angels came and took me away
Because on earth I couldn't stay

But my mother didn't want me to go
Because she really loves me so

So I spoke to God and made a deal
That would help my mommy's heart heal

And so God said that I could visit
But at certain times - there was a limit

Now I watch her visit my grave
I send her courage to make her brave

And in the night when she cries
I am there to wipe her eyes

And when she sits and thinks of me
I am there sat on her knee

When she thinks that no one cares
I am there stroking her hair

When it's hard for her to carry on
I am there to make her strong

For when you carry love in your heart
You never really are apart.

Author Unknown

My dad is a survivor too...
which is no surprise to me.
He's always been like a lighthouse
that helps you cross a stormy sea.

But, I walk with my dad each day
to lift him when he's down.
I wipe the tears he hides from others.
He cries when no one's around.

I watch him sit up late at night,
with my picture in his hand.
He cries as he tries to grieve alone,
and wished he could understand.

My dad is like a tower of strength.
He's the greatest of them all!
But there's times when he need to cry...
Please be there when he falls.

Hold his hand or pat his shoulder...
and tell him it's okay.
Be his strength when he's sad,
Help him mourn in his own way.

Now, as I watch over my precious dad
from the Heaven's up above...
I'm so proud that he's a survivor...
And, I can still feel his love!

Author Unknown

Sweet tiny angel babies,
sleeping on the clouds above,
once destined for this earth,
and families with so much love.

They started on their journeys,
from Heavens nursery in the sky,
but it seems they lost their way,
no one knows the reason why.

Although they never made it here,
although our eyes and hearts still cry,
we know they're safely wrapped up in Gods love,
and on tiny angel wings they fly.

~ By: Marlene Draper ~

A visitor from heaven
If only for awhile
A gift of love to be returned
We think of you and smile

A visitor from heaven
Accompanied by grace
Reminding of a better love
And of a better place

With aching hearts and empty arms
We send you with a name
It hurts so much to let you go
But we're so glad you came

We're so glad you came

A visitor from heaven
If only for a day
We thank Him for the time He gave
And now it's time to say

We trust you to the Fathers love
And to His tender care
Held in the everlasting arms
And we're so glad you're there

With breaking hearts and open hands
We send you with a name
It hurts so much to let you go
But we're so glad you came
We're so glad you came.

~ Song By: Twila Paris ~
O precious, tiny little one,
You will always be to me
So Perfect, pure and innocent
Just as you were meant to be:

We dreamed of you and your life
And all that would be,
We waited and longed for you to come
And join our family

We never had the chance to play,
To laugh, to rock, to wiggle
We long to hold you, touch you now
And listen to your giggle,

I'll always be your Mum,
He'll always be your Dad,
You will always be our child,
The child that we had,

But now you're gone...
We'll sense you everywhere:
You are our sorrow and our joy
There's love in every tear.

Just know our love goes deep and strong.
We'll forget you never.
The child we had, but never had
And yet will have forever.

~ Author Unknown ~
Oh Father, my father

Close your eyes and feel me near
keep me inside your heart
Let me live in your soul
You see through tears
the things we will never do
Running across the fields of my youth
Games never played but it is not gone
Those dreams you hold so close
For I live on in every child you see
little ones standing alone...
Lost or laughing in a playground
Swinging so high touching the tree tops
That is I wanting just to love
Feel my happiness in the song of a bird
See my sorrow in mother
Hold her close forever
feeling your strength
For there will be one to come behind me
whether through God's grace
or from a different calling
A child chosen through His hand
For in darkness, a light will appear
even if it is just the dawn signaling a new beginning
And as you gather my mother to your heart
release your tears
Let the healing begin and discover that I am here
In your dreams
In your tomorrows
Every rainbow is the path home
And if you should stumble
I am the wings that shall lift you


your child
Oh Mother, my mother

I touch your tears
Invisible fingers soothing your skin
I know you think of me so often in the day,
In the night,
In your dreams
Going into an empty nursery
knowing I'll never be there
but I am... in your heart in your soul,
I shall always be
for you gave so unselfishly of yourself.
Inside of you, you created such a world for me
A world of laughter, of love of sadness,
of sorrow
Every emotion people come to know you shared with me.
And even though I may never feel your arms around me
I felt your heart beating, like a lullaby,
singing me to sleep
and your spirit giving me a safe haven
already protecting me
nurturing me
preparing me of things to come.
But sometimes the journey of life pulls souls apart
and yes, I had to go on to another place.
I wish I could stay
I wish this was a decision I could make and
I know you do too.
Know this wherever you are:
I will always remember that yours
was the first love the first joy,
the first sound I will ever know
You gave me the courage to go on in my journey
I hope I can do the same for you
Your heart beat will always call me to you.


your child
Little One, Little One

Little one, little one,
Where have you gone?
Your going has darkened
The brightest dawn.

Why did you leave us
So soon, so soon?
Where can we look for you?
Over the moon?

On butterflies' wings?
In the heart of a rose?
Who knows, who knows
Where a little one goes?

Where have I gone,
I am not so small.
My soul is as wide
As the world is tall.

I have gone to answer
The call,
the call Of the One
who takes Care of us all.

Wherever you look,
You will find me there -
In the heart of a rose,
In the heart of a prayer.

On butterflies' wings,
On wings of my own,
To you, I'm gone,
But I'm never alone -

I'm over the moon.
I am home.

Author Unknown
I couldn't breathe for all the beauty there,
my lungs were bursting from the free pure air.
Our bodies resting on the clear sweet earth,
Our spirits come alive as new as birth.
I couldn't tell you where the hours went,
I was with you, so I was content.

Christine Hackett

In memory of Lindy 18 months
Forget - me - not

I am the one god chose to take
I am the one you could not awake
I am the bud you see on a tree
I am the one whose spirit runs free

I am the bulb you may plant in spring
I am the sound when you hear the birds sing
I am the one that could not cry
I am the one he chose to die

My tears are the tips of the morning dew
I am the one you never knew
I am the rain that's left on the grass
The test for life, I did not pass

I am the bees you hear hum
I had no voice, to call you mum
I am the forest that fragrance the wood
To be with you if only I could

I am the sun, the clouds, the moon
I am the bloom that went to soon
I am the star that shines above
I am the one you could not love

Forget-me-nots that's what we are
I grow in your garden, not very far
I am a heart broken in two
I am the one who belongs to you

I am the one you could not share
I am the empty space you see there
So really you see me in every way
Forget-me-not for everyday.

Author Unknown
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow
I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn's rain.
When you awake in the morning hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush,
Of quiet birds circled in flight.
I am the soft star that shines by night,
I am the flowers that bloom by day,
I am the fragrance of new mown hay
I am each blade of grass that grows,
I am the rush of melting snow.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there, I did not die.

Author Unknown
Bereaved Birthdays

Birthdays are a time for celebration
Not a time for tears
But what happens when the birthdays
No longer mark the years

A birthday marks the moment
A spirit enters earthly life
To share its special love and joy
And learn from earthly strife

Before a spirit comes to us,
It Knows when and how it must depart
It chooses its path carefully,
We are honored from the start

The sadness we now feel
on such a joyous day
Is longing for our loved one's touch
It's natural to feel this way

For even though the birthdays
No longer mark a spirit's stay
Love continues on forever
To touch us everyday

I hug my precious memories
Close to my heart
And honor my beloved spirit child
Who chose me from the start

~ Author unknown ~
A Mother's Day Wish From Heaven


Jody Seilheimer

Dear Mr. Hallmark,
I am writing to you from heaven,
and though it must appear
A rather strange idea,
I see everything from here.
I just popped in to visit,
your stores to find a card
A card of love for my mother,
as this day for her is hard.
There must be some mistake I thought,
I saw every card you could imagine
Except I could not find a card,
from a child who lives in heaven.
She is still a mother too,
no matter where I reside
I had to leave, she understands,
but oh the tears she's cried.
I thought that if I wrote you,
that you would come to know
That though I live in heaven now,
I still love my mother so.
She talks with me, and dreams with me;
we still share laughter too,
Memories are our way of speaking now,
would you see what you could do?
My mother carries me in her heart,
her tears she hides from sight.
She writes poems to honor me,
sometimes far into the night
She plants flowers in my garden,
there my living memory dwells
She writes to other grieving parents,
trying to ease their pain as well.
So you see Mr. Hallmark,
though I no longer live on earth
I must find a way to remind her
of her wondrous worth.
She needs to be honored,
and remembered too
Just as the children of earth will do.
Thank you Mr. Hallmark,
I know you'll do your best
I have done all I can do;
to you I'll leave the rest.
Find a way to tell her,
how much she means to me
Until I can do it for myself,
when she joins me in eternity.

They say we each have an angel
That we can call our very own
But once, there was a baby angel
That I never got to know

This child that grew inside of me
For just a little while
I never got to cradle
Or see his beautiful smile

This time there would be no songs to sing
Or embrace the joy, that a child can bring
No tender cheek to kiss goodnight
Or to teach his little name to write

For on that day, so long ago
Still deep within my heart
God was short a baby angel
In the heavens up above
But, I know this precious one
Is getting much care and love

So on the day God calls me home
My child I will embrace
Feeling a joy, I have never known before
As I kiss my Angels sweet face

Author Unknown
When Angels sense you need them, And Angels always do ...
They come, unseen, from everywhere To help and comfort you.
They hover close beside you Till all your cares are gone,
Till they can see you're ready Once again to carry on.
Then some of them may fly away And take their gentle touch,
To other hearts that need The love of Angels very much.
But one, at least, stays with you As your constant friend and guide,
For GUARDIAN ANGELS never leave, They're always at your side.

Author Unknown
Her tiny hand I'll never hold.
Her tiny feet I'll never tickle.
Her tiny smile I'll never see.
Her tiny face I'll never forget.
How could someone so small
Leave a void so infinite?

In a moment of passion
you were conceived -
so loved so wanted.
In a moment of anticipation
I waited...
Two lines! I'm having a baby!!
In a moment of joy
I saw you in my womb -
your little heart beating away.
In a moment, my life changed forever
"I'm sorry, your baby's heart
has stopped beating."
In a moment, you were gone
and I was broken -
My heart, my soul, my spirit.
In a moment of peace
you were born still
My sweet little girl, too beautiful for earth.

In memory of my sweet baby Lainey, our bright light, who touched my life in a way I can never explain, and whom I love with all my heart and soul. I dream of the day I will hold you for an Eternity...

Lainey K. Born Still 3/25/04

Love Mama

Dear Mom.

I had to leave, please understand
I'm resting now in God's own hand.
I was just too weak, too sick to stay,
I would never run or jump or play.

That's not the way it's supposed to be;
A child wants more -- I hope you'll see.
I wanted to smile, to play, to love,
So I had to return to my Father above.

Mom, I thank you for keeping me close,
For giving me love, for keeping me warm,
For rubbing your belly and giving soft pats.
They comforted me and I love you for that.

Maybe some evening, late at night.
You'll look to the heavens and see a light,
A star that is twinkling high above,
It's me -- and I'm sending you my love.

Gerry Dashiell-Richter

If Tears Could Build A Stairway

If tears could build a stairway
and memories were a lane,
I would walk right up to heaven
to bring you home again.

My heart still aches in sadness
and secret tears still flow,
What it meant to lose you -
no one will ever know!

God knows you had to leave us,
but you did not go alone -
for part of us went with you,
the day He took you home.

To some you are forgotten,
to others just part of the past,
but to those of us who loved and lost you,
the memory will always last.

I'm trying to find comfort in all of my grief
And it does help knowing you've found great relief,
For now you are free from all suffering and pain,
So our great loss, became your great gain.

Author Unknown
Farewell the words were never spoken
no time to say goodbye
You left us before we knew it
and we never will know why

The pain of your absence is unbearable
you were so loved by those you knew
One day we'll rejoice and know renewed joy
when were once again with you

Author Unknown

Stay with me
Don't fall asleep too soon
The angels can wait for a moment

Come real close
Forget the world outside
Tonight we're alone
It's finally you and I

It wasn't meant to feel like this
Not without you

Cos when I look at my life
How the pieces fall into place
It just wouldn't rhyme without you
When I see how my path
Seem to end up before your face
The state of my heart
The place where we are
Was written in the stars

Don't be afraid
I'll be right by your side
Through the laughter and pain
Together we're bound to fly

I wasn't meant to love like this
Not without you

Cos when I look at my life
How the pieces fall into place
It just wouldn't rhyme without you
When I see how my path
Seem to end up before your face

The state of my heart
The place where we are
Was written in the stars

I made a few mistakes, yeah
Like sometimes we do
Been through lot of heartache
But I made it back to you

Cos when I look at my life
How the pieces fall into place
It just wouldn't rhyme without you
And when I see how my path
Seem to end up before your face
The state of my heart
The place where we are
Was written in the stars

When I look at my life
How the pieces fall into place
It just wouldn't rhyme without you
When I see how my path
Seem to end up before your face
The state of my heart
The place where we are
Was written in the stars

The state of my heart
The place where we are
Was written in the stars

You gave us joy and so much love
We feel we're truly blessed
that god entrusted you to us
ahead of all the rest

How we long to hold you
like we did when you were small
Instead we hold your memories
so beautiful to recall

And when we get to heaven
a smiling angel we will see
Just like on earth you'll call to us
hi mum and dad it's me

We'll wrap you in our loving arms
and hold you to our heart
Our joy within will complete
we'll never have to part

Author Unknown
Treasures of the Heart

There is no greater treasure than what's held within this chest,
More valuable than diamonds, silver, yes even gold.
The joining of two hearts, the sum of two souls,
No greater treasure, nor story ever told.
A gift to you is this chest, to place within
The treasures of your heart and your memories to hold.

Camille Labusohr

A butterfly lights beside us like a sunbeam,
And for a brief moment its glory and beauty
belong to our world.
But then it flies on again, and though we wish
it could have stayed, we feel lucky
to have seen it.

Author Unknown

Don't think I don't grieve

Don't think I don't feel
Because you see no tears
A river rages deep inside
Of grief and loss and fears

Just because I do not cry
Don't think my hearts not broken
I keep inside the misery
Of words not to be spoken

Sometimes I smile or tell a joke
So you won't see my pain
Or notice how my hands will shake
Of how I've gone insane

Each time I chance to think of him
My heart is ripped asunder
The loss I feel is mine alone

You will not see my thunder

Author Unknown
On angels wings you came and went
Tears of joy and sorrow spent
Loving memories our hearts do hold
within this box your treasures gold.

Bonita Firby

An angel delivered you to our arms
deprived us of your worldly charms
whisked you away to the stars above
left us with cherished memories of love.

Bonita Firby

Heaven's Special Child

A meeting was held quite far from earth.
"It's time again for another birth,"

Said the angels to the Lord above.
"This special child will need much love.

Her progress may seem very slow.
Accomplishments she may not show

And she'll require extra care.
From the folks she meets way down there.

She may not run or laugh or play;
her thoughts may seem quite far away.

In many ways she won't adapt.
And she'll be known as handicapped.

So let's be careful where she's sent.
We want her life to be content.

Please, Lord, find parents who
Will do a special job for you.

They may not realize right away
The leading role they're asked to play.

But with this child sent from above
Comes stronger faith and richer love.

And soon they'll know the privilege given
In caring for this gift from Heaven.

Their precious charge, so meek and mild
" Is Heaven's very special child."

Author Unknown
And if I go,
while you’re still here…
Know that I live on,
Vibrating to a different measure

Behind a thin veil you cannot see through.
You will not see me,
So you must have faith.
I wait for the time when
We can soar together again,
both aware of each other.
Until then,
live your life to its fullest
And when you need me,
Just whisper my name in your heart,
…I will be there.

~ Emily Dickinson ~

A mother’s love
is like a circle, it has
no beginning and no ending.
It keeps going around and around,
ever expanding, touching everyone
who comes in contact with it.
Engulfing them like the morning’s mist,
warming them like the noontime sun,
and covering them like a blanket
of evening stars. A mother’s love
is like a circle, it has
no beginning and
no ending.

Art Urban


Oceanna HallHeston

As we stand with empty arms,
broken hearts and shattered dreams
we envision tiny rosebuds
still held tightly by nature's unbroken seams.
For no other human heartache
can possibly compare
with the death of one's own child
so gentle, small and fair
It is not always the aged
that dies and leaves us alone
Sometimes it is a rosebud
so tiny sweet & young
Never knowing the real reason
yet always wondering why.
Though our rosebuds did not flower
The love we shared, will never die.

Oceanna is Pastor at the Royal Alexandra Hospital.
She wrote this poem for the May Memorial Service.
Perhaps they are not stars,
but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our lost ones
pours through and shines down upon us
to let us know they are happy.

~ Inspired by an Eskimo legend ~

A Candle for Your Child

Today you will light a little white candle
and say aloud your child's name.
For one fateful day, your life was changed.
The holidays will never be the same.

Today you will light a little white candle
and hang an ornament on a special tree.
Who would have thought you would be in this place?
Sharing your child as a memory.

Today you will light a little white candle,
a small gesture to some others.
Here we share the pain of our loss,
with Mothers, Fathers, Sisters & Brothers.

Today you will light a little white candle,
and as you gaze into the flame,
may comforting memories flood your mind,
as you proudly say your child's name.

Today you will light a little white candle,
With us your compassionate friends...
For all of us know that though they're not here,
our Love for Them NEVER ends.

Tammy Tobac

Written initially for my brother who died in 1990, and a TCF candlelight service.

Now I also light a candle for my son Tanner, who was stillborn, full term.

My Empty Place

You were connected to my heart,
A gift of love within my womb,
You moved, quickening every fiber of my being, filling me. The bond that
would never be broken.
Then you were gone, only faint, treasured reminders that you ever were.
The tears do not heal the crushing pain,
A part of my soul.....gone forever...I am empty.
Then quietly, in the night sometimes, I feel the whisper of soft
butterfly kisses on my cheek,
the gentle touch of a tiny hand sweeping away the endless tears, Hear
the sugar tones of laughter as you pat my face, filling up my empty
place, and telling me that you are here.

To Davy...Sleep in Grandma's arms
Faye Stewart

Donated with the author's permission
by Jean Willis

Dear Easter Bunny,

I just had to write today
To see if you'll stop in heaven
As you hop along your way?
You see, a part of me is up there
That I miss with all my heart
You see, my child is up in heaven
and it's torn my life apart
When you take the egg up there
Please whisper in his ear
Wish him Happy Easter
For I miss him more, every passing year

Author Unknown
Don't ask us if we are over it yet. We'll never be over it.
A part of us died with our child.

Don't tell us they are in a better place.
They are not here with us where they belong.

Don't say at least they are not suffering.
We haven't come to terms with why they suffered at all.

Don't tell us at least we have other children.
Which of your children would you have sacrificed?

Don't ask us if we feel better.
Bereavement isn't a condition that clears up.

Don't force your beliefs on us.
Not all of us have the same faith.

Don't tell us at least we had our child for so many years.
What year would you choose for your child to die?

Don't tell us God never gives us more than we can bear.
Right now we don't feel we can handle anything else.

Don't avoid us.
We don't have a contagious disease, just unbearable pain.

Don't tell us you know how we feel, unless you have lost a child.
No other loss can compare to losing a child. It's not the natural order of things.

Don't take our anger personally.
We don't know who we are angry at or why and lash out at those closest to us.

Don't whisper behind us when we enter a room.
We are in pain, but not deaf.

Don't stop calling us after the initial loss.
Our grief does not stop there and we need to know others are thinking of us.

Don't be offended when we don't return calls right away.
We take each moment as it comes and some are worse than others.

Don't tell us to get on with our lives.
We each grieve differently and in our own time frame.
Grief can not be governed by any clock or calendar.

Do say you are sorry. We're sorry, too, and you saying
that you share our sorrow is far better than saying any of those
tired cliches you don't really mean anyway. Just say you're sorry.

Do put your arms around us and hold us.
We need your strength to get us through each day.

Do say you remember our child, if you do.
Memories are all we have left and we cherish them.

Do let us talk about our child.
Our child lived and still lives on in our hearts, forever.

Do mention our child's name.
It will not make us sad or hurt our feelings.

Do let us cry. Crying is an important part of the grief process.
Cry with us if you want to.

Do remember us on special dates.
Our child's birth date, death date and holidays are
a very lonely and difficult time for us without our child.

Do send us cards on those dates saying you remember our child.
We do.

Do show our family that you care.
Sometimes we forget to do that in our own pain.

Do be thankful for children.
Nothing hurts us worse than seeing other people in pain.

~ Original version was written by Mary Cleckley, Atlanta, GA ~
~ Revised by Wendy Lockman ~

" To the Child Of My heart "

O precious, tiny, sweet little one,
you will be to me,
So perfect, pure and innocent
just as you were meant to be.
I dreamed of you and your life
and all it would be.
I waited and longed for you to come
and join our family.
You never had the chance to play,
to laugh, to rock, to wiggle.
I long to hold you, touch you now
and listen to you giggle.
I'll always be your mommy
You'll always be my child
the child that I had.
But now you're gone...and yet you're here
I sense you everywhere,
You are my sorrow and my joy
there's love in every tear.
Just know my love goes deep and strong
I'll forget you never
the child that I had, but never had
and yet will have forever

Author Unknown

Eternal Love

Did you feel the cuddle of an angel
as you left my sweet embrace?
Did you feel warm winds of Heaven
blowing on your tiny face?
Did you close your eyes to Mommy,
and awake to Father there?
Did your fingers reach from my face,
to touch His face, His beard?
Did you hear the howls of Daddy?
Oh, we wanted you to stay...
You left our laps for a little while,
How our hearts hold you each day!
Our love can span the chasm
And reach you where you are,
And Heaven, for a moment,
it doesn't seem so far.

Amy Ostertag

In memory of Madison Laree Ostertag
October 19, 1997 - April 25, 1999
Time and Space

There was supposed to be a time
A time for you and me, alone.
A space to call our own.
We talked about that time
Somewhere in the future, a given,
Like summer follows spring.
There was to be a time
There was to be some space.
That our "we" could live in
To share, to care, to love
And to learn about each other
All over again.
There was supposed to be a time and space
That would not, could not be interrupted
A time and place set aside for us
That somehow belonged to you and me.

Author Unknown

A Poem for My Friends

I ask you not to grieve with me
For my loss you cannot know
And please don't tell me how you understand
But this is just how some things go.
I ask you not to know my pain
Or tell me it was God's will
And please don't tell me how another child
Will my ache and my need fulfill.
There are times when words are void of meaning
There is nothing that anyone can say
Just hold my hand and sit with me
Till I can cope in a better way.
Pray for me and the child we lost
Help me believe in a better day
Help me to hope and to somehow know
I'll survive this all some way.
And when I mention
Lindsay's name
Please try not to look ashamed
For I loved her more than life itself
And I will always speak her name.
Do not tell me it should be over now
And we cannot change the past
You cannot understand, my friend,
This grief does not leave when asked!
Just bear with me, in my grief
and the turmoil of my mind
And pray that on some future day
I'll not comfort you in kind.

Corry Roach
Tiny Angel

Tiny hands that hold a lifetime
connect your heart to mine.
Tiny fingers trace the lifelines
of two souls that intertwined.
Tiny nose and tiny eyes
In a tiny little face
Reminders of your beauty
Quickly gone, without a trace.
Tiny kicks and tiny wiggles,
Stopped in the silence of one breath
As my tiny, lovely angel
Was caressed and kissed by death.
A tiny life stopped in one heartbeat,
Oh, how could this be?
You passed through my life, my heart, my soul
You became a part of me.
Tiny whispers, tiny words
Never to be heard.
But your echos live forever,
My tiny, precious son.

Jennifer Gates

You Were Loved

Before your eyes had opened to the light,
Before you could smile and coo all night
Before arms could reach to hold you tight
You were loved, you were loved, you were loved.

Before you had time not to like it here,
Before you had time to show any fear
Before you had time to shed a tear
You were gone, you were gone, you were gone.

I am writing this poem to let you know
That I never really wanted to let you go.
I wanted to keep you here and let you know
You were loved, you were loved, you were loved.

Brenda Reichstein
Coming Out of the Dark

Why be afraid if I’m not alone
Though life is never easy the rest in unkown
Up to now for me it’s been hands against stone
Spent each and every moment
Searching for what to believe

Coming out of the dark, I finally see the light now
It’s shining on me
Coming out of the dark, I know the love that saved me
You’re sharing with me
Starting again is part of the plan
And I’ll be so much stronger holding your hand
Step by step I’ll make it through
I know I can
It may not make it easier but I have felt you
Near all the way

(repeat chorus)

Forever, forever I stand on the rock of your love
Forever I’ll stand on the rock
Forever, forever I stand on the rock of your love
Love is all it takes, no matter what we face

(chorus out)

Gloria Estefan

" Heavy hearts, like heavy clouds in the sky, are best relieved by the letting of a little water. "

Antoine Rivarol
Your life was taken
from my world;
but God replaced you
with a rose,
sprinkling petals on
my saddened path
and sunshine
on my woes.

Author Unknown


By Dawn Glenton ©2002

Please don't sit round my grave and cry,
I am not there, I did not die.
What makes you think that I would leave?
I'm with you mum, so please don't grieve.
Our bond on earth was much too strong,
Our love will carry on and on...
I'm with you as you go to bed,
I plant sweet kisses on your head.
I'm in the wind, the rain, the snow,
I'm with you everywhere you go.
Please don't cry mummy, can't you see?
I'm safe my spirit soars, I'm free.


Why did you have to leave me, why did you have to die?
Was I not meant to keep you, why do I have to cry?
I want you back here with us, things can never be the same.
How can I just go on each day and play life's awful game?
You were my wanted baby, I loved you very much.
I'll never see you laugh or cry or feel your fingers clutch.
I need to get some answers, my questions seem ignored,
I feel so lost and lonely here, oh help me please my Lord,
Take good care of my babies now you've taken them from me,
Wrap them tightly in your arms and kiss them tenderly.
Please tell them that I love them so and will forever more,
And save a place for me one day when I'll be whole once more.

By Dawn Glenton (c) 2002


Right now I'm in a different place,
And though we seem apart,
I'm closer than I ever was ...
I'm there inside your heart.

I'm with you when you greet each day
And while the sun shines bright,
I'm there to share the sunsets, too ...
I'm with you every night.

I'm with you when the times are good
To share a laugh or two,
And if a tear should start to fall ...
I'll still be there for you.

And when that day arrives
That we no longer are apart,
I'll smile and hold you close to me ...
Forever in my heart.

Author Unknown
" And God Said "

I said, "God, I hurt."
and God said, "I know."
I said, "God, I cry a lot."
and God said, "That's why I gave you tears."
I said, "God, I am so depressed."
and God said, "That's why I gave you sunshine."
I said, "God, life is so hard."
and God said, "That's why I gave you loved ones."
I said, "God, my loved one died."
and God said, "So did Mine."
I said, "God, it is such a loss."
and God said, "I saw mine nailed to a cross."
I said, "God, but Your loved one lives."
and God said, "So does yours."
I said, "God, where are they now?"
and God said, "Mine is on My right and yours is in the Light."
I said, "God, it hurts."
and God said, "I know."

Posted on the wall at the
Oklahoma City bombing site
by KC & Myke Kuzmic
Stockton, Ca.

Angel Wings

Jean Rozon

Written in memory of her baby granddaughter, Vivienne.

A precious angel slipped away,
no one heard a cry.
No time for Daddy and Mommy
to sing me lullabies.
My time with you was much too short,
I had to leave so soon.
But love had joined us as I grew
inside my mommy's womb.
It wove its way within our hearts,
in all our hopes and dreams,
until the very purest love
became my tiny wings.
Although I could not stay with you,
I knew right from the start
that once you felt your angel's love,
you'd keep me in your heart.

I'm just a little angel
but my time was not in vain,
as dark clouds that surrounded you
gave way unto the sun.
My precious parents you will see
that any heart will sing,
if only for a moment
it is brushed by angel wings.

Someday, life will get better.

It will be easier to smile ...

I know you’re sad today and I wish I could help you get past your hurting.
But sometimes, it seems we just have to hurt a while,
and no one can show us the way out...
we have to find it for ourselves when the time is right.

For now, just know that it’s alright to hurt because I will help you with your hurt. It’s alright to cry...I will shed your tears.
It is only through crying that you learn what it’s really like to laugh...only after feeling sadness can you really experience joy.
To allow yourself to feel what comes naturally...
but know that someday life will be easier...
it will be easier to smile

Author Unknown

A tiny hand we yearn to hold,
His face we crave to see.
This newborn baby we want to hug,
The son God sent to me.

But birth's first sounds we did not hear,
Though his tiny face we did see,
His tiny frame we are not able to hold,
Up to heaven where he was meant to be.

Karen Stott

Written in memory of
Baby Kayden

She was born on a cold winter day
The ground covered with frost
And in my arms I held a baby
My baby child lost.

She had skin that was as soft as silk
And lips a rosey red
Her mother's nose and a hidden smile
Curly hair on her head.

A person I'd do anything for
No matter what the cost
But she is my angel in Heaven
She is my child lost.

No pushing her out on the swingset
No picnics in the park
Only an emptyness inside me
An emptyness so dark.

No toys for her and me to play with
No balls that we can toss
No trips to see Grandma and Grandpa
My baby child lost.

Now it is fall and I do reflect
Like color on a leaf
About the time we spent together
A time that was too brief.

She is my precious baby daughter
She's everything to me
I know there will be a day sometime
Together we shall be.

She was born on a cold winter day
The ground covered with frost
A baby not to be forgotten
A baby child lost.

By Todd Blum

In Loving Memory of
Ella Marie Blum

Stillborn January 26, 2004 at 38 weeks, 4 days gestation
7 lb, 13 oz and 21 3/4 inches

Delivered at Dupont Hospital, Fort Wayne, Indiana
Due date: February 5, 2004

Grief Grows

My grief will grow.
Grow into what?
Into an obsession,
And I will think about you
Every second of every moment
In every day;
Into depression –
A big black hole that opens before me
As I walk along.
My grief will grow
Into an anger so red and raw
That I will not be able to see anything else.
I will be blind with rage.
Its fire will kindle in my soul
Until I am burnt up,
Consumed by the flames.
My grief will renew
Like the phoenix
Rising purified from its funeral pyre.
My grief will grow
Into compassion –
I will look into the eyes of another
And see my own pain reflected there;
Or into passion:
I will commit myself wholeheartedly
To the things that I believe.
Grief will grow into seeds of love
That I will scatter,
And into gifts that I will give to others
From the very depths of my soul.
My grief will grow –
Not into more grief.
Perhaps one day my grief will grow
Into hope:
Hope that I can use
All I have learnt
To make a difference to someone else.
Hope that I will no longer
Wear my pain
Like a badge on my sleeve,
Or let it consume me so totally
That it becomes the sum of who I am.
Hope that whether or not
I believe we will meet again
Still I can behave as if we will,
So that you can be proud of me.
Hope that in our own time
I will travel far enough
To be worthy to have known you.
Hope that I will know in my heart
That to let go the pain
Is to let in the love,
And give it room to grow.
Hope that one day my soul
Will be so full of love
That there will not be room for anything else.
Then joy, and not grief only,
Will be mine.

Kay Allen.

Our daughter Flora was born with a rare metabolic disorder, Cytochrome Oxidase Deficiency. She remained brave and beautiful whatever indignities she had to suffer. In 1997 she died, aged 22 months.

I want this poem to have its own message for you, but what it says for me is that there is definitely a time to be unbearably sad or uncontrollably angry. However, one of the many things that I learnt from Flora is that no matter what may happen, you too can be brave and beautiful in the assimilation of your experience.

Beautiful memories
Silently kept
of a baby we loved
And will never forget
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February 23rd 2003 'Baby D' - Miscarraige 10 weeks pregnant

Thomas - January 1st 2004 8:31am - Born Still (31 1/4 wks)

"Fly, fly little wing - Fly beyond imagining"

Pregnant Again: Due - 4th November 2004....
'Please let us take this one home with us'

Miscarriage - Lost twin - 31st March 2004 at 9 weeks

~ Milly Ingrid Dixon ~

Born on the 16th November 2004, 3:43am - 8lbs 12ozs

A beautiful baby sister for Thomas!

~ Robert George Dixon ~

Born on the 18th March 2008 - 7lbs 15ozs